Abuse

 Hello friends! I am grateful for many things today and especially for openness to one of you who wrote me that she has been abused, bitten by her husband.

It's very sad that it is happening and happening too much, mostly hidden from eyes of the other people behind the doors and smiley faces we see among us...

I feel so sorry about it! That's very painful, scary, humiliating... What are you feeling?? Please share with me... Anger, fear, helplessness? What? Or hope that it will change by it's own? It will not unless you take actions.

 I went through that too in my life. My ex-husband hit me when he realized I was leaving him. And the reason I was leaving him was regular emotional abuse. I lived with him for about 11 months before marriage and 1 month after we got married. I collected a lot of psychosomatic symptoms of uncured cold, problems with my reproductive system. I already had some knowledge about psychosomatic back then so I realized that my body helps me to make necessary changes and to start loving myself. 

And believe it or not even after that... and his threats when he met me in the night (I was teaching dances back then and had late evening classes finishing at 10 pm and he knew it) and found me in the dark street, shook me, grabbed my throat, saying that he will kill me if I don't return to him...  

So even after that all something in me (guess what?) in a couple of months led me to give him another chance... which lasted 2 nights when I confirmed myself in the right decision to leave him forever. And this time I left when he wasn't at home - to provide safe escape. I learnt something, right?😏 

I know from my own experience how hurting that all can be. Not speaking of the difference in situations, severity, intensity and frequency and personal perception, behaviors when it's happening of all individuals since we all have different set up. 

That divorce helped me to follow my path: after recovery in Nepal with yoga, mantras, swimming pool, beautiful views and hikes in Himalayas, flying over Everest and travelling to Australia I left a job as a lawyer, the fitness centers I had been working as a belly dancer and rented the hall, started many different ages groups of dances and kept expending kinds of dances, added yoga group until I left that city in Russia for India in 2012 for 3 weeks but stayed there more than 4 months and found my soulmate-husband right at the end of that journey. 

I helped and keep helping other friends and clients in similar situations. 

I hug you warmly my friend! Come to me and feel that you are not alone, you are loved, you are good, it's not your fault... Together we can go through that... and change it!  I did it (I am happily married second time for 11 years and living my dream) and You can do it! I see this potential in you too!!! It's inside you! I can help you to see it, feel it, to activate it and use it... You don't have to tolerate abuse. Life is not for that but how to get through the suffering and start living happily in safe environment, feeling secure inside and outside, letting go all fears, worries, limitations...

There is a hope and tools, many tools... that works differently for all of us and there is certainly something that works for YOU if You do it! Please contact me if you are abused. We should stop it and we will!

With love, 

Olesya

p.s: Please feel free to correct my mistakes of my perfectly imperfect English. or to ask any questions