How I've learnt to not feel overwhelmed

 Do you know what helped me to not feel overwhelmed? To be aware which part of personality I'm perceiving this moment from.

As you probably know there are three main parts in each of us: inner child, inner adult and inner parent.

 

When the voice of the inner parent is too aggressive or pushy the inner child feels resistance and is overwhelmed by many emotions coming up.

The inner child thinks and acts from the word "want"- desires. 

The inner parent -"should", "have to","must". 

The adult - "I can". 

I noticed when I listened to my inner parent's voice I felt a lot of pressure... And my inner child wasn't happy at that moment too, responding to the inner parent "I don't want to...", "I would rather do... (Whatever but not what my inner parent wants me to do). "  

When I choose to think and act from the inner adult - I feel like I can do anything😀 or almost anything... And that part knows how to do and what to do the best by it's own.

My inner child though likes to have her desires and wishes satisfied first. That's why I communicate with my friends, family and colleagues-soulmates, read in the morning, do yoga or practice only breathing exercises if I feel like it or doing nothing, like sunbathing... The things my inner child likes to do. So I ask that part what does she needs/wants at the moment and do it for certain amount of time defined by adult part. Then I feel very resourceful, with healthy boundaries.

 I try to listen to my inner parent's "should" and "have to" as little as possible as my grown up acts better when that voice is retired or let's call it becomes a loving observer.

 Adult part is powerful, strong, energetic. You have a very strong adult part!!! And you know how to listen to your inner child and to realize little girl's (or boy's) desires and wishes, to fulfill her/his interests... 

That's the source of energy. 

Then we do the same things we suppose to do without feeling overwhelmed... We just do it, as much as we can (staying in touch with body, its needs like hunger, thirst, tiredness, comfort, temperatures, etc. by satisfying those needs), without pressure, with neutral emotions. 

The inner child includes emotional part. Emotions, feelings - our compass in life. When we notice, hear, understand and accept our inner child, she/he is happy and quiet and doesn't mind whatever adult part has to do even it's not what it likes/wants/needs.

That was my life hack😍. 

Maybe it doesn't work for everyone... That's ok too since we are all different... But it really helped me to stop feeling overwhelmed...

What do you think about it? I can hear some questions already... Will let you ask them!😉

Plus therapy of course helps to release suppressed emotions. Then the inner child doesn't hold anything from the past and is in the moment here and now, without necessity to replay old stories in the background. Old stories and stuck emotions - the source of overwhelming feelings. There are many tools to work with those.

If you need/interested in therapy, let me know!

Naps can be powerful 

p.s: I am also still learning to feel better when I start getting tired to give myself quality rest. My beloved Mother was a great Model in that: she can just drop any project at any point she feels tired and tell herself and aloud if there is someone around: "I will finish it later - after I rest."

I love to unwind using yoga nidra* in the middle of the day. 20 min do miracles or savasana from yoga (even 5-10 min conscious relaxation) if I don't have access to WiFi.

*Yoga Nidra, often called "yogic sleep," is a guided meditation that promotes deep relaxation and a state of consciousness between waking and sleeping. It's a technique designed to induce a restful state, potentially leading to decreased stress, increased relaxation, and a sense of well-being. 

I shared my beloved yoga nidra channel earlier in this group Healing

How do you relax?